Did anyone catch the Super Bowl Game? I sure didn't. You'll have to fill me in on the excitement of the halftime show, because let's be honest, this is what we actually tune in for.
I want to talk a little today about comparisons. Comparing yourself to others to any degree: family, friends, appearance, money, skills, job, boyfriend, girlfriend, car, house etc. Have you ever found yourself sizing up the other person's story? Have you wondered why they have all that they do? How did they manage to acquire this and that when you've worked twice as hard? Why them and not me? Who did they boink to get where they are? We've all been here in some capacity at one time in our life, I'm sure.
Now to explore why we may be having these thoughts. Where do these thoughts stem from? Are they genuine, or mere distractions to keep us from owning our excuses? Were we once told we were not good enough? Smart enough? Beautiful enough? Did we set unrealistic expectations for ourself? Are we trying to please others by saying or doing things that don't match our vibration? Even, do we judge others because we judge ourself?
Any stressful feeling is a tip off what you're believing is untrue. Have you noticed how life can turn upside down just by a thought you've convinced yourself is true? How do you treat yourself when you have this thought? How do you treat others? Are you angry? Sad? Snappy? Is this the point at which you become a victim? Now what would happen if you were to remove that thought? Do you feel instantly lighter? Capable? Free? In control? How is your physical self responding? How do you get to this place?1.When you're noticing a stressful feeling, write it down. Give the feeling a voice. What would this feeling say?
2. Ask yourself if it is true. Don't ask if the thought matches what you've been told or have learned. Don't get into what you think the answer should look like.
3. Consider how you live when you believe this thought. Do you feel peaceful or stressed? Do you feel like a failure? Do you begin seeking a vice?
4. Explore a life without the thought. Who, what, where would you be without this thought? Bask in your ability to not think this thought.
5. Turn the thought around. Turn the original statement that is bringing you stress around until you find what sinks in the most.
At one point in my life, I was seeking a solution to a relationship that was no longer healthy, at least not in an intimate capacity. But I knew I didn't want a quick fix, otherwise I would repeat this lesson. I needed a way to check in with my thoughts frequently and get to the root of the issue. That's when I discovered
"I Need Your Love- Is That True?" by Byron Katie.
I got more than I bargained for with this read, as it offered me the tools to alleviate unnecessary stressful thoughts in any situation, simply by asking myself these questions. This isn't to say some pesky thoughts don't still try me. But when they do, I know what what to do in order to avoid circling the drain. Fun fact: I also had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful author. She seemed to step into my life at the perfect time.
Seek answers. Seek guidance. Then kick the hamster off the wheel just long enough to have a real conversation with self. Don't be afraid to get uncomfortable. Go there. Ask all the questions that make you squirm. Journey into areas you might have left unstirred for some time.
When it comes to comparisons, remember you are unique. The lessons to be learned in your lifetime completely differs from the person sitting next to you in Uber pool, therefore, the path you must take to get to and through each lesson is custom designed, just like your fingerprint. You may not get to be that other person, but guess what? They do not get to be YOU!
Moreover, if you are so busy concerning yourself with someone else, who's steering the wheel of YOUR life? You owe it to yourself to be 100% loving, supportive, positive and present. Have faith in your path.
You are lovable. Now go out and play in your lane, knowing it was divinely created for you and you are living life to the fullest.
Dedicated to Your Healthy Mindset
Strong 4 Pole, Owner
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