Good Afternoon!

I hope your weekend was beautiful. Mine certainly was. I celebrated my 27th annual Sweet 16 on Catalina Island. Fabulous weather, food, activities and sea life. People were so friendly, helpful and welcoming.

Being away for the day in such a small town reminded me of how simple life actually is and how complicated we tend to make things, thereby adding unnecessary stress to our life.

This may sound goofy, but I often reference the movie, "Dumb & Dumber". The two main characters played by Jim Carey and Jeff Daniels are so oblivious to the crumbling world around them, that they lead happy lives. They are unaffected by a laundry list of other people's words and actions, and go about life being none the wiser, hence the title of the film. Though silly and seemingly unrealistic, I think that's actually a much healthier way to live. 

Every time you interact with others, you have the choice to listen, acknowledge, and let go, or take those words personally. In order to take something personally, you must first read negative intent in those words. But what people say usually has more to do with them and their own experiences than with you. By you taking on their emotion based on their experiences, you then accumulate stress for no reason.

Why do we want so badly to own what does not belong to us? 

Know that another person's stuff is theirs. Yours is yours. All of it gets worked out by choice. Their opinion of you is none of your business, nor is their opinion about someone else. Never allow anyone's words or actions to affect how you see yourself or growth. It is always up to you to influence your own value.

For this week-

Ask yourself: "Is this for me, or is this person merely in need of a moment to vent?"

If it happens too often that you're coming away with a heavy, weighed down feeling, this might be the time to either bring it to the person's attention (if it is a relationship that you want to grow), or keep it moving.

The choice is always yours.

Wishing you a week of reflection and love.

Dedicated to your Success,
Sasja Lee
Owner, Strong 4 Pole

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